Comments on: Falling in and out of love while feminist http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/ The sky is high. The Czar is far. Sun, 27 May 2012 07:08:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Do Feminist Dating Messages Apply to Queer Dating? « Radically Queer http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-31885 Tue, 14 Feb 2012 12:51:33 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-31885 [...] Antonova on falling in and out of love while feminist What happens to me that drives me up a tree is this: The guys who respond to me and are like, [...]

]]> By: Putting things aside: feminist dating | Hegemony & Hipocricy http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-24349 Wed, 12 Jan 2011 05:21:07 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-24349 [...] There seem to be a few feminists who’ve tried to answer this question, but the entire time I was reading these responses, I felt unsatisfied. Here is one snippet that seemed to represent a lot of the attitudes: Whenever I sacrifice my feminism for a man, I do it while remembering that it’s feminism that allows me that choice in the first place. [...]

]]> By: FW http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23147 Mon, 05 Apr 2010 04:47:53 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23147 “Because at the end of the day, for me, being a feminist is also being able to show off my scars, like the dudes on the boat in “Jaws”.”

Amen, word, dig it, right-on, groovy, and all that jazz.

]]> By: SMH http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23143 Fri, 02 Apr 2010 03:11:19 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23143 First, I don’t think it is right for a feminist woman to just “not care” if a guy offends her when she is first getting to know him.

You may not think it is right that she thinks that way; however the point of the post is that as a human a person has the right to feel what they feel and that right should be extended to each person equally as a matter of respect and human dignity.

Lovely post refreshingly honest.

]]> By: Politicalguineapig http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23140 Wed, 31 Mar 2010 16:38:23 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23140 Gaina: I’ll try to keep that in mind :D . Now I’ve gotta rent a Dustin Hoffman movie.. hee-hee.

]]> By: Gaina http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23136 Tue, 30 Mar 2010 15:01:41 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23136 Politicalguineapig You know what? I think sexy is in the mind, not necessarily in the physique. I’ve known men and women who are utterly sexy and very engaging but not conventionally beautiful and conversely people who were extremely beautiful physically, but who were as dull as ditch water with zero sex appeal.

Think Dustin Hoffman (love him!) v Kevin Costner (yawn!). ;-)

]]> By: Politicalguineapig http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23132 Mon, 29 Mar 2010 22:13:21 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23132 Gaina: I completely agree. I’ve always thought romance was over-rated. I horrified my friends one evening when I said my ambition was to be someone’s mistress. Of the love ‘em and leave ‘em variety: think Madame Pompadour.
Shame I have the wrong body for it :D

]]> By: links for 2010-03-29 « Embololalia http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23130 Mon, 29 Mar 2010 18:07:57 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23130 [...] Falling in and out of love while feminist Oddly enough, feminism does play a huge role in the most personal, the most painful moments of my life. It’s when I’m screaming things like “you just want a woman you can CONTROL!” that I’m being a real feminist, not the flirtatious “hardcore” girl you might meet at the theater or in a club, but someone who, when the layers of make-up and mini-dresses are stripped away, just wants to be treated like a human being, goddamit. And it’s when I’m crying about a guy who faked friendship for a chance to be with me that the phrase “but you can get by on your own” becomes the equivalent of a warm and reassuring hand squeezing my shoulder. [...]

]]> By: Gaina http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23106 Sat, 27 Mar 2010 15:08:54 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23106 Feminism is not a ‘one size fits all’ ideology which is were I think the rad-fems are going so very wrong. We are individuals and have to adopt feminism of our own making that fits in best with our own personal circumstances – some women feel that devoting themselves to their career is feminism whilst some feel that being a home-maker and a mother or being ultra glamorous and girly is the best way they can express their feminism. You know what? All those expressions are completely valid as long as those are genuine informed choices.

Personally I am not into all the love and romance stuff. I know what makes me feel comfortable and positive about myself from personal traits to external appearance, and absolutely refuse to give up one inch of that for a man. It’s a case of ‘take me as I am, or take a hike’. To me having a relationship now would be adding a cherry to the already delicious cake that is me, not giving myself over to anyone else or needing a man in my life to validate me.

In short, men are gorgeous and lovely to have in my life but not a necessity.

]]> By: Lal http://nataliaantonova.com/2010/03/27/falling-in-and-out-of-love-while-feminist/#comment-23105 Sat, 27 Mar 2010 12:51:32 +0000 http://nataliaantonova.com/?p=2849#comment-23105 The last line of this post is beautiful and true. The past is our foundation, it’s what we grow out of.

I adore YOU, Nat, but I adore your blog so much because you combine feminism with passion. I feel strange agreeing with Cranky for a change, but you’re a feminist for the openly sensual woman.

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